Grid and Bare It (Part II)

by Scarlett on February 15, 2010 · View Comments

in: Girl Gone Gaming, Sex With Scarlett

This is part 2 of my blog about the Second Life virtual world game. Be sure to catch up before reading ahead!

If you mention Second Life to someone who hasn’t ever checked it out, you’ll usually get one of two reactions:

“What the hell is Second Life?” or
“I heard that all people do there is have cyber sex.”

Despite its appearance in some mainstream TV shows, movies and literature, Second Life has been very poorly marketed here in the States – so much so that it has a very hush-hush underground vibe to it, which only serves to increase the perception of sketchiness. In fact, if you look for information about it on websites that are not dedicated to and/or affiliated with Second Life, you’ll mostly find bewildered or bemused accounts by people who logged in briefly, only to quickly stumble upon the seedy underbelly of the metaverse.

There’s a great line from an episode of The Office where Dwight says that he signed up for Second Life because “my life was so great, I literally wanted a second one.” Unfortunately that sentiment is very rarely the case, as most of the residents created accounts because they were bored and curious, or the far more likely scenario: they just really wanted to escape their first life, even if it had to be virtually. And in many cases, that escape led to indulging in the one thing that has come to define Second Life, sustain its economy, and – in my opinion – ruin what could have been a really awesome virtual world.

And that’s sex. Lots and lots of sex.


“Do you come … here often?”

Sex in Second Life is like chat room cybering on steroids. It can be as vanilla or depraved as one desires, and just about anything your naughty little heart possibly could desire can be found in-world. Nowadays, that is. Believe it or not, there was once a time where having sex in Second Life was actually a pretty innocent and hilarious endeavor. You and your companion would animate your respective avatars on little pose balls, which would in turn simulate a sex act – usually in a somewhat jerky, awkward and altogether un-sexy way. I’m not ashamed to admit that I tried it out a few times way back in the day, sans the cybering, since the whole thing always made me collapse into laughter. “Haha! Every time you grind against me, my hand totally stabs through your chest. And look, my eyeballs are rolled back into my head like I’m having a seizure!” But hey, it seemed like harmless fun. Until things got seriously fucked up.

In 2007, a German television network accosted Linden Lab with images of an adult and child avatar having sex, and a huge age-play scandal erupted. Meanwhile, the software kept improving and content creators kept innovating, and before long those dorky, awkward sex posers had been replaced with complex items of all varieties that were equipped with sophisticated animations, some of which were generated by actual motion-capture. Attachable jiggly-bits became all the rage, with every size and shape of genitalia available for purchase. Strip bars and fetish clubs spread across the grid like a fever, in every flavor from your basic “topless-only” action to bestiality, necrophilia, rape play, and god knows what else. Prostitution became a huge money-maker, particularly for women who were willing to use the newly-implemented voice chat system to provide their johns with as much reality as possible. But it wasn’t until 2 years later that Linden Lab finally realized that they needed to regulate the never-ending sexcapades that were devouring their once wholesome grid. Enter Zindra.

What is Zindra, you ask? And most importantly, how do you get to Zindra? The oddly named, adult-only grid is accessible by anyone with a Second Life account – provided that they’ve been age-verified. This means that you need to provide either a credit card, driver’s license, or other acceptable form of ID in order to gain access. As you might expect, this was a hugely unpopular maneuver. Some argued that it was an invasion of privacy; others claimed that it would be ruinous to their well-established, adult-themed businesses. I say, screw ‘em! (Heh – bad choice of words.) And besides, from what I’ve heard, the more things change, the more they stay the same. Child avatars are still permitted on the adult grid, via some very vague wording in the TOS, and the whole age veritication system has been plagued from the beginning with false-positives and circumvention measures. Apparently, some people will go to any lengths to enjoy anonymous avatar sex – and the more depraved, the better.

So what’s the point in all this? If Second Life disappoints me so, why bother keeping my account around? I don’t know – I guess I’m nostalgic about what it was, and what it had the potential to be. I keep remembering those early clusters of geeky folks chatting excitedly about the possibilities of this new, blank canvas of a metaverse. Watching the pioneer creators begin to tentatively design the beautiful framework for what later became twisted and ugly. And the saddest part is that sex is what makes the (virtual) world go ’round. Without all the money being spent and earned on the many and varied aspects of the sex trade in Second Life, the in-world economy would be severely cripped, and the program would likely cease to exist.

Eh – it’s probably time to give up the ghost anyway. I was never able to truly embrace the idea of a “second life”; outside of the SL-assigned moniker, I was always myself behind the avie-mask. Dorky, cheeky, free-spirited Scarlett – and in the end, one life is more than enough for any person to “bare”. :)

  • DawnOfMinstrel

    I was always fascinated by the emergent and built-in economies of SL… just not enough to actually start playing it. Still, I usually find online communities something fun to observe from the outside. Minus the Spoony Experiment community. We rock.

  • bethanythemartian

    Well I didn't know they'd moved all the adult stuff to one server, but at least it does keep it from the kids who aren't out looking for it, which is an improvement. I heard it was kinda everywhere for a while.

    The disgusting stuff goes on in WoW, and just about everything else people are allowed to be online. You can't stop people from being sick wackos, especially online where a lot of people feel they're allowed to be as depraved and mean and whatever as they want. You can't STOP it, no matter what you do. Not even with fire. So I guess taking the 'it's gonna happen and if we can try to keep the kids out who don't need to see it' policy is much better than just shrugging and saying it happens.

  • http://gangstaboogie.deviantart.com/ goodtimesfreegrog

    This writeup really takes me back to how they used to reference Second Life as a virtual world of limitless possibilites for communication and learning back in my college courses…which is doubly funny because then and now, it's only ever really used as an avenue for virtual furry sex. But then again, that's what happened to Habbo Hotel too…

  • GonzoLink

    I'm not one to judge, but I've never really been a fan of sites like Second Life or Habbo Hotel. I never really even knew about Second Life until a year or two ago when I read about it in MAD Magazine. I can't remember exactly what they said, but the joke was that the name was ironic in that most frequenters of the grid tend to lack a first life.
    BTW, Dwight was just using the line that his life was so great as a cover because at that point it had only been a mere four episodes after Angela broke up with him for stuffing her cat in her freezer.

  • http://scarlettopia.com Scarlett

    Hells yes, we do! And we do our best to keep the depraved sex acts to a bare (hehe) minimum. ;-)

  • http://scarlettopia.com Scarlett

    Yeah, the move to Zindra happened this past summer – and it was just in time, as I've heard they've thinking about (or already went ahead with) merging the Teen Grid with the regular (18+) server. I personally think it's a HUGE mistake, as I can only imagine the kind of nutjobs that would prey upon the teenagers in SL. While the kiddos (technically) wouldn't be allowed in adult areas, they always seems to be a way to circumvent the boundaries. It gives me the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it!

    I'm surprised to hear that similar stuff goes on in WoW, actually. Yet another reason not to get sucked into that game, as tempting as it continues to be!

  • http://scarlettopia.com Scarlett

    I've heard of Habbo Hotel once or twice, but have no idea what it was … I'm assuming something very similar to Second Life? Likewise, when SL first launched in 2003, it was being hailed as a truly revolutionary way for people to connect in a virtual world; where people could learn and create and form friendships and have a really rewarding experience. It sounds totally cheesy now, but at the time it really felt possible.

    … Then all the Yahoo Chat rejects showed up and sullied the place with their ravenous sexual appetites. I'm no prude, but you're right about the furries sex – and that's amongst the tamest of the varieties! :-P

  • http://scarlettopia.com Scarlett

    Ooh, another fan of The Office, I see! Yep, I remember the context of the line, but I love the fact that Dwight had (and still has) an avatar – totally classic, and completely legit for his character! It's too bad they never do anything with the in-world Dunder Mifflin Paper Co group. I joined up hoping I might at least meet some cool Office fans, but no dice. Another disappointment, which is par for the course for Second Life these days!

  • http://twitter.com/lazerblade23 Jacob Z

    Very interesting article, Scarlett, because I actually played Second Life several years ago, and I remembered calling it a “big, deserted wasteland that you have to pay for” because EVERY SINGLE THING costed money, required a membership, or was just deserted, probably because well…everyone got bored. Also porn. Lots and lots of “pose ball” pretty pathetic pr0nz, that you had to pay for as well. :(

    Come to think of it, most social-interaction games tend to fail miserably. People play games to have fun, not talk about boring stuff or do the devs' idea of “hanging out” all the time. Though cybering is still funny, like in Habbo Hotel, where I remember having “sex” was basically just sleeping in someone's bed with them, and just laying there saying “im totally having sexx wit u lolololol”.

  • http://scarlettopia.com Scarlett

    Really good points, Jacob. And you're right – Second Life has truly devolved into a place where everything costs money (the real life kind) and most of the cash is just for vanity purposes, not for anything that will ultimately bring you enrichment.

    There was one place in SL that I really enjoyed, and it could always be counted on to be populated with interesting, witty people. It was a little cafe called Open Latte in Mill Pond, and was probably my favorite place simply due to the interesting folks it attracted. But then, as so often happens, some random SL dramaz inspired the sim owner to shut the whole thing down. Nothing good lasts forever, it seems – not even in a virtual world! =P

  • aaronodeneau

    wow i know someone on second life they are always trying to get me on there too. i might go there someday but meh i don't know. i agree with you that the idea of a virtual world where we could go anywhere or do anything with a fully customizeable avatar is splendid. too bad exucution needs work. cause ever since i watched the movie gamer i've been intreged with how a true-to-life simular where you pay to do anything you want with your avatar would be incredible. but i think it would just lead to interweb 2.0 we'd all meet and chat and talk and fuck virtualy then we'd want to meet only to find that we've been secretly humping a frumpy fat old man who wears depends.

    but the idea could evolve rather then devo ,into something where we could have a mental screening and set up a world to our specs and surround ourselves with like minded people. but for now the technology and the mental age of the general population just isn't there yet. oh well a boy can dream can't he.

  • http://twitter.com/SeijinRoo Seijin Roo

    Well, it is sad to hear you are giving up on SL, but I suppose given your experiences with it I can't say I'm surprised.

    It IS possible to get by quite well without pumping RL money into it though. In fact, the account you made in 2003 should have been receiving a free L$150 a week. It doesn't translate into a lot of monetary value, but every little bit helps.

    At any rate, I still extend my offer to come hang out in SL. I promise, I'm not one of these people out to cyber like 99% of the population seems to be.

  • Filip_Z

    Yo Scarlett.
    Since yer Spoony's gal, i figure you know a bit about roleplaying. For the last year or so i've been roleplaying on secondlife. Its really great. Freeform rp. Thats something you can do with your spare time if you want to use secondlife for something other than wandering around.

  • http://twitter.com/fiendishtooth Johnny Am

    Second Life was great fun when I first tried it way back in 2005. I joined because my friend made me an account and I would hang out with her and all the friends from a forum we frequented. It was an interesting transition for me because I was leaving The Sims Online (another no-point mmo) and entering SL was just kind of refreshing. Having a Box on your head as you try to figure out how to buy clothes, thinking my Vincent Valentine outfit was amazing, watching illegally streamed movies in world at blue stone movie theater and jewelry. Those awkward poseballs for sex, dancing, just about anything were typically hilarious. They’ve improved amazingly when I went back this year to check out how the game was after 3-4 years away. The child avie bit you mentioned though completely shocked me. Probably the first time I’ve been shocked by a SL related story. The bestiality was nothing new, one stop at xcite and you can see the weird shit you an buy. But child avie sex I never once thought of and I think that’s good. I’m glad to know i’m not as insane as some other people. Child Avatars always creep me out anyway and that just kinda backs up that notion. Very interesting blog read minus the portion my brain got stuck on out of disgust hehe – some people.

  • the_microwaveman

    If I had heard of you when you posted this, I would’ve responded earlier. Sorry for being so late to the game :-(

    When I’m on second life, I like to script(which is the bastard child of c++ and java), chat, listen to live singers and comedians, watch people wrestle WWE-style, user created carnivals and play games with people..like Greedy! If you can’t build or script, there are places that will teach you…some for free. Hell, I could teach you to script for free lol! There are tons of things to in SL besides cyber.

  • Anonymous

    This piece reminds me of the way it used to refer to Second Life as a virtual world of infinite possibilities of communication and learning back in my college courses … which is doubly funny because yesterday and today, it just never really used as a route to the skin of virtual sex. But again, what happened to the Habbo Hotel also …
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