Happy (belated) new year, everyone! I can hardly believe that half of January has whisked by already. My days have been filled up with moving preparations and the act thereof, and now I’m happily settled into my new apartment which is literally a stone’s throw from the last. (I stayed in the same complex, just went with a smaller unit to save some much-needed cashola.) With the economy looking to be grim as ever in the first year of the newly minted decade, I’ve been searching my noggin for ideas on how to bring in a little extra for ye olde piggy bank. If you’ve any suggestions, let me know! Just keep ‘em clean – street walking is hardly as glamorous as Julia Roberts and Richard Gere would have us believe. Not that I would know or anything. 
Speaking of looking for lust in all the wrong places, some of you may have heard about the hullabaloo over an online dating website’s recent decision to dump 5000+ members because they “let themselves go” over the holidays. Nothing like some superficial rejection to ring in the new year, amirite? The Beautiful People dating site, which goes out of its way to market itself as an exclusive community with a “strict ban on ugly people”, decided that a number of its members were no longer worthy enough to suck in the rarefied interwebz air of its elite ranks, after said members updated their profiles with post-holiday pictures showing apparent weight gain.
In order to gain access to this mecca of superficial snobbery, you have to upload a photo with your sign-up form, and current members are given 48 hours to rate your image to determine whether or not you are indeed beautiful enough to gain full membership to the site. And the verbiage during the sign-up process even goes so far as to guarantee that your dates will always be beautiful. O RLY? First of all, how does this website check the validity of the photos? It’s ridiculously simple to find pictures of attractive people online – just take a casual stroll through photo albums on Flickr, Facebook, Deviant Art, and similar sites, select one that isn’t too posed and could pass for something candid, and you’re good to go.
Secondly, how can you possibly market an international website that makes claims that its members are all incredibly attractive? By whose measuring stick? The site operates in 10 different languages and has members from all over the world – a world where standards of beauty tend to vary widely. Though unsurprisingly, the highest numbers of member casualties came from the United States, the United Kingdom and Canada – suggesting that those three countries likely make up the bulk of membership. In that case, one can get a pretty fair representative idea of what the standards of so-called “beauty” are amongst the majority of members. Rail thin (yet buxom) women of the bland American model/actress variety, and men with perfect six packs and perma-tans, still glassy-eyed from their last frat party. Ugh.
Now there are some who might argue that plenty of “exclusive dating communities” already exist, and indeed, they do. You have sites aimed at those of certain religious faiths, ethnicities, income levels, etc. However, those sites tend to be pretty objective. If you practice the Jewish faith, you qualify for a Jewish dating site. If you’re Latino, you don’t need to be “voted in” by other Latinos. But beauty, to borrow a very cliched phrase, truly IS in the eye of the beholder. And honestly, how desperate for acceptance must you be to let your photo be paraded out in front of a group of Certified Beautiful People to see if you’re worthy of being including in their hallowed halls?
It’s stuff like this that people will point to – those skeptics who insist on thinking of online dating as unsavory and a waste of time. But I’ve been a champion of being open-minded about meeting people online since dinosaurs roamed the earth (i.e., 1999). I suppose I have positive influences though; my mom met my step-dad less than 2 weeks after she got online for the first time in her life. Still, for those of you who may have considered trying online dating in the new year, don’t let the Beautiful People rejects and their holler-than-thou brethren scare you off. There are still several quality, non-judgmental dating sites out there – OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony are just a few. I do wish there was something more geared toward folks of the geeky/nerdy variety, and I’ve seen a site or two that purports to cater to that niche, but they were unimpressive at best. Maybe I’ll start one myself, eh? I could even outlaw profile pictures altogether and find other creative ways to pre-select prospective members:
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Best. Idea. Ever!
“All the lonely people,
Where do they all belong?”
{The Beatles – Eleanor Rigby}
